Life Coaching Tip: Pay close attention to the words that are coming out of your mouth, because they’re a good reflection of the “stories” you are narrating in your mind. This is important because your thoughts (stories) create your results, and so intentionally telling stories that align with what you want for your life is the easiest and most delightful way to make it happen!
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I was recently talking with a friend who shared a story about a situation she considered to be full of bad luck. As she went through her list of unfortunate events, she started each part of her story with, “Of course.”
“Of course, it started to rain.”
“Of course, our reservations got messed up.”
“Of course, I woke up that morning feeling sick!”
“And, of course, the very thing I was most worried about, happened . . .”
I could tell she was telling the story as if she expected things to go wrong. It was like she was getting a jolt of satisfaction from being “right.”
But I am wise enough to know better than to offer my opinion when someone is in a mood (we’ve all been there). She would have definitely NOT appreciated a life coaching lesson from me at that moment.
So, I kept my lips zipped, and I listened with empathy.
Later, though, I decided to experiment with flipping my own use of “of course” to describe bad fortune into something more positive and empowering.
That evening, after a rainy day, I took my pup, Ginger, for a walk just as the sun was setting. As we turned the corner near my house, I heard a train whistle. My first thought was, “Well, of course there’s train! We’re going to be stuck at the tracks until sundown!”
But I caught myself and reframed it: “Of course, that fast train will be gone by the time we reach the tracks!”
And guess what? It was! Ginger and I were delighted.
I’ve been having so much fun with this game ever since!
That evening, of course, I had amazing calls with clients. Of course, my freelancer nailed the project we’d been working on. And of course, I came up with a great gift idea that had been keeping me stuck!
Why do I pay such close attention to the words I speak? Well, because they reflect the stories I am concocting in my brain. And those stories are shaping my reality.
If I tell myself, “Of course, life just took a dump on me,” this leads to feelings of frustration, helplessness, and negativity. And nothing good was ever born from these emotions!
But when I frame things as, “Of course, magical things are happening for me,” this brings up feelings of hope, optimism, and joy. And these emotions create magnificent outcomes!
I want to encourage you to try the “of course” game this week! Not only is it fun, but it’s powerful because:
- What you focus on, you create more of!
- You are responsible for the energy you receive and radiate out into the world.
- Science shows us that your brain has a confirmation bias. You subconsciously look for “proof” to support the stories you tell. So you’re going to want to tell stories that uplift you and create the kickass results you desire!
- You deserve to feel inspired, confident, and empowered!
Alrighty now, repeat after me:
“Of course, the day is rich with fabulous opportunities, and I open my heart to receive them!”
“Of course, things are always working out for me!”
“Of course, every cell of my body is alive with good health and energy!”
“Of course, I attract money like a freaking magnet!”
“Of course, my life is filled with delightful surprises, lucky breaks, and abundance!”
Be open-minded and be playful with this, sister!
And remember . . . .
You are a one-of-a-kind masterpiece, overflowing with gifts and talents. And, OF COURSE, you have the mighty power to create anything your heart desires!