Life Coaching Tip: Whenever we want to make a change, our primal brain immediately embellishes the pain points and efforting involved. To move forward, you must bypass these thoughts and remember your “whys”. You deserve all you’re wanting. ALL OF IT! Don’t let your primal brain tell you any different!
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I love my walks by the lake.
Now, I understand this is not a news flash, but I want to emphasize that I never have to “force” myself to go for a walk.
I consider my walks a treat! It’s something I get to do, not have to do, and my walks add to my emotional and physical health in some great ways.
This is an important distinction because of the way my rebel brain likes to spin my stories. Without a doubt, if I thought of my walks as something I should do or have to do or must do, it would surely be a difficult practice to maintain.
And this isn’t only true for rebels. It’s a human thing, no matter your disposition. “Forcing” ourselves to do anything rarely works long-term, and if it does, it often comes with a lot of bitter feelings of resentment.
This is what I explained to one of my incredible clients this week when she told me she would like to introduce some healthier habits into her life. She used the “f” word (“forced”), and I cringed.
So, I asked her to complete this sentence about living a healthier lifestyle:
I deserve to …
And this stumped her. She smiled and said, “You sure come up with questions that make me think,” and she pondered it a bit longer.
Eventually she created this sentence that worked for her: I deserve to feel healthy, strong, and energetic.
A much more inspiring thought, for sure!
This is significant because whenever we want to make a life change, our primal brain immediately goes to the pain points and the efforting involved. And since its job is to keep us from “suffering”, it bombards us with thoughts that keep us stuck in our tracks…
I should exercise in the mornings before work. Ugh, but do I really want to get up that early? I don’t want to be tired, and I don’t feel like I’m getting enough sleep as it is. What if I can’t even make it through the beginner’s workout plan? That would be so embarrassing! It’s been a while, and I’m really out of shape. What if I hurt myself? I can’t afford time off from work!
Any of this sound familiar?
To move forward, you must intentionally bypass the thoughts of suffering that your brain wants to take you to (oh, the drama!) and remember your “why!”
What is the result you are wanting? Why?
The endurance to run a marathon? Great cholesterol and blood-sugar numbers? The strength to climb Mount Kilimanjaro? To fit into those sexy jeans?
Well, YOU DESERVE THAT! All of it! Whatever you are wanting.
Don’t let your primal brain tell you any different.
Treat yourself and create a life that you love!
And this isn’t just about health goals, it’s about every goal you may have.
You deserve to…
- Open that business
- Live in an organize space
- Change careers
- Impact the planet
- Connect with your soulmate
- Triple your income
- Travel
- Do whatever lights you up!
The first step is to write down your whys and a step-by-step plan of all the things you get to do to accomplish your goals.
And then as you take action, focus on the results you are creating, not the efforting involved. Imagine how amazing you will feel once you have achieved your goal and allow the entire process to be delicious.
Fun, right? A treat!
Awesome because YOU deserve it!
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