Life Coaching Tip: You must do things differently if you want to pursue your dreams, and this can bring up all kinds of fear. You may feel this uneasiness in your body. In order to move forward, you’ll need to override the uneasy feelings of change. It can feel uncomfortable at first, but you’ll adjust. You’ve got this!
“Do you want to switch to the other side?”
That’s what my husband, Jerry, asked me a while back on a morning walk, and I then asked him what in the world he was talking about.
“I noticed that you like to walk on the left of me when we’re walking together, so I thought you might be more comfortable if we switched,” he said.
“What? No, I don’t,” my rebel-self told him. I had no idea what he was talking about. I mean, I’m not that weird.
However, after just a few more moments of walking on the right side, I realized just how uncomfortable I was with this placement. Something felt off.
Right did not feel “right” to me at all.
Yes, it turns out, I am that weird.
The thing that amazed me was that I never consciously realized that I had this silly bias, but subconsciously my brain was telling me that something was “wrong” every time I walked on the other side.
This is interesting to me because clearly it doesn’t matter in the least what side I walk on – neither is safer, there is no “right” or “wrong” here, but my brain was clearly giving me a different message…
“Stick to your habit. Don’t shake things up. Do not change!”
I could feel the unease in my body.
It was enough to admit to my husband that he was correct and then do the old switcheroo.
I’m sharing this with you today because I want to point out just how ninja our primal brain can be when we begin to do things differently. This is important because if we want to level up and grow, then we MUST do things differently.
I see this with my clients all the time when they are in the process of making a life change.
It feels uncomfortable, and they can feel the anxiety in their body. Then. they interpret this as a sign that something is wrong.
They may have thoughts like…
- What if I am making the wrong decision?
- What if I lose it all and fail?
- What if people think I am selfish and irresponsible for going after my dream?
- What if I still don’t feel happy after disrupting my life this way?
- What if I regret it all later?
Does any of this sound familiar?
If so, let me remind you of some truths:
- That dream is in your heart for a reason.
- You are already fully equipped with everything you need to succeed.
- You are capable of accomplishing anything you set your mind to.
- The danger is not real.
- There’s nothing serious going on here.
If you are ready to override the uneasy feelings that come with change, then you must create space for yourself to recognize the fearful thoughts that are limiting you, then intentionally remind yourself of the facts.
Those thoughts are as sneaky as the ones that created discomfort in me when I didn’t honor my preference for walking on the left side of the path.
For the most part, change is uncomfortable, but you can handle it.
Nothing has gone wrong.
Keep moving forward!
PS: Life coaching can provide you with the extra support and encouragement you need to feel your fear and go for your dream anyways! Check out my private coaching page and let’s schedule a time to talk.