Life Coaching Tip: If you are hiding behind the identity of being a “realist” as a means of staying tucked safely inside your comfort zone, it’s time to give up this pretense. Truthfully, it’s just as “realistic” to think about and take action from a place of your unlimited potential, really even more so, than imposing imaginary limits on yourself!
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Those of us who live in Northeast Ohio have recently had the pleasure of enjoying warm, spring-like weather, and it’s been amazing!
Of course, this makes my morning walks even more enjoyable—helping me to feel a bit lighter without my heavy winter coat and boots. And on these walks, I’ve begun noticing the subtle changes of spring all around me.
To my delight, the woods are no longer still and silent.
The birds are partying in the treetops—singing, calling, and squawking like nobody’s business. And the other critters are active and busy, too, stepping out from their winter hideaways to search for a bite to eat.
And almost all the ice that had covered the lake has now disappeared. The sound of the waves—sometimes trickling, other times roaring—can be heard as they hit the shore and wake up the soul.
All of this has inspired me to think about the miracles of springtime!
Soon, flocks of birds and butterflies will migrate in from the south, somehow knowing their way back to their summer homes.
And the woods will be decorated with the stunning beauty of wildflowers that sprout from exploding seeds—and colorful blossoms that burst from tiny buds will cover the now bare branches of the trees.
And, of course, so much more!
Every bit of it is a miracle, compliments of the spectacular Universe and Mother Earth.
And don’t even get me started on the celestial movement of the Earth as it orbits the sun, making this all possible. Simply mind-blowing, right?
When I reflect on all of this, I can’t help but think about how ridiculous it is that we humans, including yours truly, often put tight limits on ourselves and all that is possible.
When a client says to me, “I’m just a realistic person,” to justify their limitations, I share this truth with them: We create our own reality.
It’s a fact. If you don’t believe something is possible, it won’t be for you.
And this is rarely well received because most of us want to hold onto our excuses. Our excuses give a false sense of security—a reason for staying in our comfort zone.
I was raised to believe that being “realistic” meant intentionally focusing on everything that might go wrong with any given situation and conjuring up scenarios that scared the bejeebers out of me!
And I know I’m not the only one. Many of us, from the time we were small, were encouraged to fear and avoid change and expansion in the name of “safety.”
But considering the majestic explosion of awesomeness that’s all around us, this version of “realism” seems rather absurd, doesn’t it?
Seriously, how can we hold onto such a narrow view of “reality” knowing that a giant sycamore tree originated from a teeny, tiny seed, or that geese fly thousands of miles to migrate in “V” formation?
I want to thank the Universe big time for not being “realistic” when I see a brilliant sunrise or gorgeous sunset.
And it’s not just the Universe and Mother Earth who challenge the status quo. Every advancement on this planet (and beyond) has originated from a place of “unrealistic” thinking and action—innovation, creation, and expansion.
Imagine what people might have said to Alexander Graham Bell about his crazy ideas in the 1870’s before he invented the telephone. Or what they might have thought about the Wright brothers, Orville, and Wilbur, regarding their wild ideas to build a machine that would fly in the sky!
I’m guessing most folks must have thought they were bananas, right?
And now, I’m wondering . . ..
Are you hiding behind the identity of being a “realist” as a means of staying tucked safely inside your comfort zone?
If so, I want to lovingly call you out.
You have too many gifts and talents to keep them squandered away!
It’s just as “realistic” to think about and act from a place of your unlimited potential—even more so, than imposing limits on yourself.
Now, if you are already venturing out into unchartered territory, then please, oh please—shine on, my friend!
Be sure to thank those who tell you that you’re not being “realistic” because you’re not alone. The history books are filled with stories of trailblazers just like you!
And of course, there’s Mother Earth, the epic, original, most “unrealistic” trailblazer of them all!
Knowing… a little more: Tap in and Trust Yourself