Life Coaching Tip: Have you ever wanted something so profoundly that it makes you feel terrified that you won’t get it AND that you will get it – all at the same time? Do you bolt when you get close to your goal, but then feel overwhelmed with sadness as it then feels out of reach again? If your answer is “yes”, then continue reading for help to finally break this pattern!
My pup, Ginger, would be an excellent role model for anyone wanting to learn how to find joy in the moment. She’s an expert at chasing stray leaves in the wintertime & butterflies in the summertime, and never misses the chance to sniff a flower – always without a care in the world!
And, like all dogs, her true zone of genius is unconditional love. Her soul is sweet, innocent, and pure; And her magnificent heart simply radiates love. I can feel it in her snuggles and in her excitement when I come home, even if I’ve only stepped out to check the mail:)
But there’s another area that is unfortunately not in Ginger’s zone of genius – courage. Yep, Ginger would not be a good role model for anyone wanting to learn how to override their fears to manifest their desires.
I was thinking about this as we walked together at the park this week, and I think we can all learn from Ginger’s example as what NOT to do…
Ginger has always been an anxious pup, unusually fearful of anything new. Her soul sister, Mocha, although one-third her size, was the intermediary in such situations, getting in-between Ginger and any unusual, scary thing – like the wheelbarrow my husband once left in the backyard. Mocha would approach it first, while barking “ferociously”, to let Ginger know she had her back and there was nothing to fear.
However, when Mocha passed away, Ginger was left to navigate these situations on her own. And she’s consistently opted to error on the side of caution and flee – despite her curiosity and deep desire to make a connection.
Here’s what this looked like last Tuesday…
Ginger and I were walking along the path at the park when we passed an elderly couple who seemed to truly appreciate Ginger’s gentle disposition and beauty. They were soft-spoke and kind, respectful of Ginger’s shy nature.
When they first approached, Ginger ran towards them, and so they reached out to give her a pat. But the moment they did that, Ginger pulled back and wedged herself in-between my feet for safety.
The couple asked all kinds of questions about Ginger’s breed and temperament, and they were careful not to impose on her space. I tried a bit to encourage Ginger to get closer to them, but she was not having any of it.
And then, as they turned to go on their way, Ginger sprung forward after them, whining to get their attention back.
But, as they turned around in hopeful delight… Ginger jerked back again, out of their reach. This nonsense went on a couple more times before we all decided that my little scaredy-pup was just not going to make any further progress that morning.
And then Ginger cried, loud sad whines of despair, as we watched the couple walk away.
After this encounter, I was thinking about how we humans sometimes do this too.
We often go out in hot pursuit of our dreams; but as soon as they are within reach, we freak out and back away. And then we’re super sad and a little bit salty about the missed opportunity.
Not only do I have first-hand experience with this myself, but I see my clients doing it all the time. They eagerly take bold action steps towards their desires – and just when they get close, they scare themselves back into their comfort zone!
I’ve witnessed my clients upper limit themselves like this with money, career, business, weight loss, dating, and so much more.
Is this you?
Have you ever wanted something so profoundly that it makes you feel terrified that you won’t get it AND that you will get it – all at the same time?
Like Ginger, do you bolt when you get close to your goal, but then feel overwhelmed with sadness as it then feels out of reach again?
If your answer is “yes”, then isn’t it time to break this pattern?
Fortunately, you have a human brain, and so you can create some space for yourself for true clarity and stop reacting to the primal part of your brain that over-embellishes the need for fear.
You can be willing to be uncomfortable at first, with the understanding that this feeling is just temporary – and is natural whenever you break through barriers to achieve new heights.
Unlike Ginger, YOU are a trailblazer, my friend!
Remember, the stronger the desire, the stronger the fear and resistance. But nothing has gone wrong.
You’re just a badass warrior going outside of your comfort zone and slaying big goals– making the best of your one-and-only life!
Badassery isn’t about being fearless. It’s about feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
Sister, it’s okay to take your foot off the brake and keep moving forward!
Your courage will pay off.
And you so deserve what’s on the other side!
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