Life Coaching Tip: Truth be told, all humans have moments of badassery and jackassery—ALL of us—no exceptions! Now, more than ever, we must practice giving grace to ourselves and others. We create more of what we focus on and so it’s imperative that we collectively generate the kind of energy that shines light on our humanity and progressively moves us forward.
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There’s a magnificent hawk who perches on top of a light pole along the drive down to the park where I walk that my husband, Jerry, has affectionately named “Edison.”
Edison looks so regal and grand on his tall perch. With his head held high, he checks out the view and scans the fields behind him for his breakfast.
And sometimes while on my walk, Edison soars high above me, majestically gliding in the wind before swooping down in the blink of an eye after spotting his prey.
It’s in these moments that I compliment his incredible aerobatic-like moves that he seems to perform so effortlessly.
“Look at you, showing off your badass flying skills, Edison! Dude, you amaze me!”
Although I’m not sure he hears or understands me, I still think he can feel the love I send his way.
However, on one particular walk, I was not so impressed with my friend Edison’s behavior.
On that morning, Jerry and I were walking our two puppies, who were only a few months old at the time. The puppies were happily trotting out on their leads in front of us—until suddenly—the dude with the badass flying skills that had often amazed me dove right out of the treetops straight for our pups!
Now, once Edison saw us, he quickly changed his flight pattern and headed back up towards the treetops. But sheesh, what a dick-move! (Pardon my language, but, my friend, that’s an accurate description.)
I was livid, and I told him so!
“Hey, man! What do you think you are doing? These are my puppies, not your snack! You (bleepity-bleep) jackass! How dare you stalk them!”
If you were walking in the park that morning, too, I must confess, I was that crazy lady loudly yelling obscenities at a bird! (And gosh, if you had small children with you that day, my sincere apologies.)
That wasn’t my finest moment, for sure, but I’m owning it. And to be fair, it wasn’t Edison’s finest moment either. (Although he would probably beg to differ since he was just doing what hawks do.)
My point? Well very simply: we ALL have moments of jackassery.
But we ALL have moments of badassery too.
All of us!
So, if you were walking in the park that day, or as you are reading this now, I hope you give me some grace and don’t define me by my jackass moment.
Instead, I hope you think of me as that friendly lady who smiles and says “Good morning!” to everyone she passes and excitedly shares news about any encounters she’s had with wildlife that day.
And if you’re a faithful reader of my stories, I hope you think of me as a seasoned life coach who has come by her wisdom honestly. I hope you see me as someone who is authentic, and brave enough to talk about her sometimes-outlandish thoughts, behaviors, and vulnerabilities.
I wanted to share this story with you today for this reason . . . .
These are extraordinary times that we’ve been living in, and it would be an understatement to say that the news on so many occasions has been disheartening, painful and difficult to absorb.
I get it. I feel it, too.
That’s why I want to share this essential reminder with you: What you focus on, you create more of. This is a fact, and it’s incredibly important to consider.
It’s also a fact that there is SO MUCH good in the world . . . so much beauty, compassion, and love. Please, please, please take the time to notice and intentionally take it in.
Do your best to give grace to the other humans in your life, despite their weaknesses. Soak in their brilliance and consider their awesomeness, their kindness, and their splendor.
Don’t define them by their moments of jackassery.
And just as importantly, do the same for yourself!
DO NOT define yourself by your less than flattering moments.
We all have them. Learn from your mistakes and move on.
There is so much more to you. Like Edison, you are magnificent and grand, full of gifts, talents, and beauty.
Your moments of courage, compassion, and badassery far outweigh your faults.
This I know. For sure.
Now, more than ever, we all must practice giving grace to ourselves and the other humans in our world.
We must collectively generate the kind of energy that will shine light on our humanity and progressively move us forward.
We all need and deserve to live in a brighter, more compassionate world.
We’re all humans with our moments of badassery and jackassery, and we are all in this together.
Let’s start doing our part to turn the narrative around.
You with me?
I knew you would be, my friend! XO
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