Life Coaching Tip: What if the most powerful thing you could do when life knocks you down is simply decide who you are? In this post, I explore the strategy of identity — how claiming who you are shapes your behavior, builds your resilience, and gives you the power to rise from any setback. This is the belief that has carried me through a lifetime of challenges, and it’s available to you too. You have resurrection power.
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Fun fact: I was born on Easter Sunday.
Now, Easter falls on a different date every year, so today is not my birthday. But this day still holds a special meaning for me.
If you’ve been following me for a bit, you know that I am not about religion, but spirituality, for sure. So, whether you celebrate Easter or not, please stick with me, because this is truly about something universal:
Rising, rebuilding, and refusing to stay down.
Yes, I’m talking about resilience.
Years ago, during one of the hardest seasons of my life, I created a mantra that I came back to again and again when I needed to remember who I was:
“My name is Tracy — which means brave — and I was born on Easter Sunday, so I have resurrection power.”
I heard a TV preacher say once that resurrection power isn’t exclusively a religious concept. It’s available to all of us.
It’s the power to rise and begin again. The power to become something new from what felt like an ending.
I borrowed that belief wholeheartedly. And it has served me well.
For reals, over the course of my incredible life, I have been knocked down more times than I can count.
The kinds of hits that make one wonder, will I ever recover from this?
Just two months ago, a fall on the ice caught me by surprise and shook things up for a while.
It was a literal fall and a literal rising.
And what carried me through, as it always has, was identity.
I know who I am.
I am someone who rises.
Here’s the thing about identity that most people underestimate: it doesn’t just describe you. It directs you. When you know who you are at your core, your behavior has no choice but to follow.
And here’s what I really want you to hear:
You get to decide who that is.
Identity isn’t something that gets handed to you. It’s not determined by your past, your failures, your family story, or what someone else once told you about yourself. It’s not fixed. It’s not fate.
It’s a choice.
You get to decide.
And then you practice living from that decision, especially when it’s hard and your primal brain is screaming otherwise.
Want to be someone who is brave? Claim it. Start making decisions from that place.
Want to be someone who is resilient? Decide that’s who you are and then let that identity lead you when life gets hard.
Want to be someone who chases her dreams? Then chasing your dreams is just what you do.
This is the strategy of identity. It’s not about waiting until you feel a certain way or until the circumstances line up. It’s about deciding first and letting your belief shape your behavior.
So, on this beautiful Sunday, I want to ask you:
Who are you?
Not what has happened to you. Not what you’ve lost, or what hasn’t worked out yet.
Who are you at your core?
And maybe more importantly: who have you decided to be?
Because that identity, the one you choose, claim, and come back to, is what determines how your story will go.
You don’t have to be born on Easter Sunday to have resurrection power.
You just have to decide that rising is simply what you do.
My badass friend . . .
You are strong.
You are fierce.
And you have the power to rise.
Always.
xo Tracy


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