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Life Coaching Tip: If you want to transform your life and pursue your dreams, then you must do things differently. Doing things differently can bring up all kinds of fear which can create an uneasiness in your body and your mind. To move forward, however, you’ll need to override the unnerving feelings of change. It will likely feel uncomfortable at first\u2014but it will be worth it, my friend. I promise!<\/em><\/p>\n

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\u201cDo you want to switch to the other side?\u201d<\/p>\n

That\u2019s what my husband, Jerry, asked me a while back on a morning walk. I then asked him why in the world he would ask me that.<\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019ve noticed that you like to be on the left of me when we\u2019re walking together, so I thought you might be more comfortable if we switched,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat? No, I don\u2019t,\u201d my rebel-self told him.\u00a0 I had no idea what he was talking about. I mean, I\u2019m not that weird.<\/p>\n

However, after just a few more moments of walking on the right side, I realized just how uncomfortable I was with this placement. Something felt off.<\/p>\n

Right did not feel \u201cright\u201d to me at all.<\/p>\n

Yes, it turns out, I am that weird.<\/p>\n

The thing that amazed me was that I never consciously realized that I had this silly bias\u2014yet subconsciously my brain was telling me that something was \u201cwrong\u201d every time I walked on the other side.<\/p>\n

I found this interesting because clearly it shouldn\u2019t matter in the least what side I walked on\u2014neither was safer, there was no \u201cright\u201d or \u201cwrong\u201d here\u2014but my brain was giving me a different message:<\/p>\n

Stick to your habit.\u00a0 Don\u2019t shake things up.\u00a0 Do not change!<\/em><\/p>\n

I could feel the unease in my body.<\/p>\n

I was uncomfortable enough to admit to my husband that he was correct. And then we did the old switcheroo\u2014I changed to the other side.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sharing this with you because I want to point out just how stealthy the primal brain can be when we start to do things differently\u2014it allows fearful thoughts to sneak into our mind and trigger unease. However, if we want to level up and grow, then we MUST do things differently, despite the uneasy feelings.<\/p>\n

I see this with my clients when they are in the process of making a life change.<\/p>\n

It feels unnerving and they can feel the anxiety in their body. They then interpret this as a sign that something is wrong.<\/p>\n

They may have thoughts like:<\/p>\n