Life Coaching Tip: If you struggle with self-confidence, know that you’re not alone. Thanks to conditioning from the patriarchy, many women struggle with feelings of self-doubt and insufficiency. But, you can kick your fears and self-doubt to the curb and shift to a mindset that is grounded in self-confidence and badassery, and it doesn’t have to be hard or take a lifetime to begin. The following practices will help get you started TODAY!
_______________________
Today, I want to provide some tips for you on how to cultivate self-confidence.
If you struggle with self-confidence, know that you’re not alone. Many women struggle with feelings of self-doubt and insufficiency—and honestly, I could have been the President of the Club for much my life!
We live in a culture that subtly and not-so-subtly teaches young girls to stay small, quiet, and avoid taking up space. Most of us have been conditioned to feel “not enough” from the start, and so you likely landed here by design.
But you don’t have to continue to feel this way. Like me, and so many of my clients over the years, you can release your fears and self-doubt and shift to a mindset that is grounded in self-confidence and badassery.
And here’s what I’d like to offer you . . . .
It doesn’t have to be hard or take a lifetime to begin to shift. The following practices will help get you started TODAY!
Create a Morning Routine
Even if it is only 15 minutes, having this time to yourself can set the tone for the day. This is especially effective for my “I’m not a morning person” friends. If you want to get the blood flowing, you can do a few minutes of simple stretching or a full-on workout—whatever feels best.
If you want to start the day more reflectively, dedicate a few minutes to journaling or meditating while you sip your favorite morning brew.
And bonus, studies show morning is the best time of day to add a new habit—so if you’re looking to try one out, add it to your morning routine! Doing something positive for yourself will offer a great boost to your self-confidence reservoir.
Establish New Boundaries
We all struggle with “no” sometimes but saying it can be one of the most genuine forms of self-love! Guard your time and energy with polite, but firm, “nos.”
If this task seems like a challenge, start small. You can decide to protect your morning routine and then build from there.
Once you decide the morning routine is your boundary, you are unauthorized to compromise, skip, or share the 15 minutes you have allotted for yourself every morning. I promise the world will not collapse if you take time for yourself; in fact, I promise your world will be a brighter place if you do!
Find Your Tribe
When you surround yourself with positive people who share similar goals, you are setting yourself up for success.
Let’s imagine a big goal, for example: You want to train and run a whole marathon.
Do you think you will have a better outcome hanging out with the people from the local running club or your friends who want to stay out every night socializing and drinking wine? Neither group is good nor bad, but one fits better with your goals.
Aligning the people you spend time with to your goals will help get you there faster!
Power Pose
Intentionally, positioning your body as if you were confident can send powerfully confident vibes to your brain. (Think of how even the most mediocre of men carry themselves!)
In her book, “Presence,” author Amy Cuddy makes the case for posing for two-minutes in the “Wonder Woman” pose anytime you need a confidence lift. (This looks like hands on your hips, leg stance wide, chin up—like the photo of the fierce woman above)
Especially in my early years, I’ve found this simple trick to be an easy way to stop my knees from knocking!
So, are you ready to get on it and cultivate a stronger sense of confidence for yourself?
Think about the many aspects of your life that will be positively impacted when you show up in full badassery!
Please keep me in the loop and let me know how it’s going for you.
Coming up next, the conversation will continue with a few more tips to help you strengthen your self-confidence.
Until then, know that I’m cheering for you, my friend!
xo Tracy
There Are No Mistakes in Dance Class, Only Solos!