Life Coaching Tip: If your brain is arguing with your boldest, wildest dream, that is actually a sign you are already on your way. True impossibility does not even get that kind of attention. The doubt, the pushback, the “who do you think you are” moments are all just your brain doing its job of keeping you safe inside familiar territory. But here is the good news: challenge those thoughts with even one small question of possibility, and the whole conversation begins to shift. Your inevitable is closer than you think!
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Can I tell you something that might change the way you think about your boldest, wildest dream?
If your brain is entertaining it, even just to argue with it, you are already on your way. Yes, the fact that your brain is looking at it and telling you it’s impossible is a good sign.
Let me explain what I mean.
There are aspirations I have never once contemplated. Like, being an NBA player, for instance. I mean, I’m a woman who is slightly under five feet tall, have zero basketball skills, and don’t even know the rules. Kinda makes me giggle to think about it!
My brain has never once said “I don’t think that’s possible for you, Tracy.” It has never needed to, because human brains do not waste energy on such nonsensory.
But it was quite a different story years ago when I lost my social services job and people began suggesting I become a life coach. That suggestion landed very differently than the NBA idea, and looking back, I now know exactly why.
In those early days, my immediate reaction was something like, “That is a ridiculous idea. What in the world is a life coach? Is that a real thing that people pay for?”
I was skeptical and dismissive. It sounded like such a hokey idea. What would my former colleagues think?
But here is the thing. My brain was still thinking about it. Deep down, my interest was piqued.
And that, my friend, is where every bold, wild dream begins.
Once I started exploring the idea, my brain went looking for evidence against it. With some research, I discovered that roughly 80 percent of life coaches at the time earned less than $20,000 a year. My brain latched onto that statistic of improbability immediately. “See, it’s not a viable option. Moving on…”
But just as I’d decided to move on, a thought of possibility stepped in: “Ummm, what about the other 20 percent?”
That one small question opened the door of possibility even wider.
Once I started asking what was possible instead of what could go wrong, my energy shifted. My brain started collecting evidence for my boldest, wildest dream instead of against it.
I knew my work ethic, professional skills, passion, and tenacity. I mean, tenacity is my middle name. I have always been someone who lands in the top percentile of whatever I set my mind to, and once I reminded myself of that, something clicked. The bold, wild idea went from nonsense, to possible, to probable, to something I simply knew was going to happen.
Inevitable.
And looking back now, what strikes me most is how hard my brain worked to talk me out of it every step of the way. The doubt and the statistics, and the “who do you think you are” moments were all just my brain doing its job of trying to keep me safe and tucked inside familiar territory.
But like I said, tenacity is my middle name, so I kept going anyway.
Here is what I want you to take away from my story: the doubt you may feel about your boldest, wildest dream is not a stop sign. It is actually a sign that your brain is engaged, and it is taking the idea seriously enough to push back on it. True impossibility does not even get that kind of attention.
So, if you’ve got a bold, wild dream on your mind these days, but you’re feeling like it is out of reach, or maybe even a bit nonsensical, consider this: the fact that your brain is entertaining the idea at all means that somewhere deep inside, you know it is possible.
Challenge yourself on this, sister. Inevitability is just a few brave thoughts away.
xo Tracy
From Impossible to Inevitable